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CROSSWAY COACHING

Who We Serve

Crossway Coaching was established for one purpose – to promote the healing and recovery of women struggling with the impact of sexual addiction – whether the addiction is their own or their partner’s. At Crossway, I understand your need for safe, compassionate, non-judgmental support.

Wives or partners of Sex Addicts

Women battling Addiction

Couples Seeking Help

You may be here to work through the pain and trauma of betrayal caused by your Partner's Sex Addiction, or perhaps you want to know how to support him as he goes through recovery.  You may be planning to move on without him and you don’t know how.  You may feel completely lost, with no direction whatsoever.  One thing is certain, there is much to learn and understand if you are to come through this stage of your life, stronger and healthier than before. You may be asking yourself now…

  • Why do I feel so out of control?
  • How can I regain control?
  • Why can’t he just stop?
  • Is this about me?
  • How did he get like that?
  • How do I ever trust again?
  • How do I take care of myself and support him, when what he’s doing hurts me?
  • Can he overcome this?
  • Did I contribute to this somehow?
  • Will things ever be the same?

Many professionals acknowledge that the disclosure or discovery of a Spouse’s Sex Addiction is traumatic. Whether or not a physical affair occurred, your husband's addiction is a betrayal to you and your marriage. Your pain may last awhile.  Give yourself time. The beginning of healing comes from taking care of YOU.

Healing begins with understanding...

  • Understanding Sex Addiction
  • Understanding what your values are
  • Understanding how to live a life based on those values, and
  • Understanding how to protect them and yourself by establishing and enforcing boundaries.

 

Coaching will help you through this.

Few things are as misunderstood as Sexual Addiction.  Due to widespread ignorance and judgment surrounding Sexual Addiction, few women will ever reach out for the help they desperately need.  I’m glad you’re here.  There are many reasons why sexually compulsive behaviors develop.  But those reasons are not chains.  They can’t hold you here.  But to navigate the path to recovery, you’re going to need information, tools, support, accountability, and more.  You may be asking yourself…

  • How did I get like this?
  • I want to stop. Why can’t I?
  • How can I tell my partner?
  • Isn’t this just who I am?
  • Is recovery really possible?
  • What will it take to overcome this?
  • What does a healthy recovery look like?
  • How do I even begin?

Sexual Addiction Recovery is a transition, and it’s not enough to just stop doing the things that you know aren't good for you…  You need to replace those habits with healthy ones.  You need strategies to handle your urges, and new coping skills to manage your emotions.  In coaching, you will:

  • Begin laying the foundation for change – dealing with guilt, shame, and having the proper motivation for change
  • Explore and begin living out your values
  • Understand the importance of creating boundaries and enforcing consequences when boundaries are broken
  • Learn to recognize and deal with triggers
  • Develop new coping skills, hobbies
  • Learn to communicate more effectively and develop skills for deeper relationships

 

 

In coaching, you decide what your goals are, and we help you achieve them.

If you are hoping, as a couple,  to work through this difficult time, I want you to know that your life and your relationship can be stronger and more fulfilling than it ever would have been had you never faced this trial.   And I believe it will be.   Rebuilding trust, developing boundaries, learning to effectively communicate and resolve conflict is all part of Sexual Addiction Recovery, and it takes a lot of work…   hard work…   by both parties.  But the result is worth it.  You may be asking…

  • What if we’re not sure we want to work it out?
  • How can there be trust again?
  • How can I know he’s being honest?
  • How can I rebuild trust with her?
  • What is the non-addict's role in recovery?
  • How can we work on this when we can’t even communicate about it without arguing?
  • Will he (she) ever understand what it’s like to be on my side of this?
  • Is intimacy, or even friendship possible?

These questions, and many more, will be dealt with in coaching.  You can have intimacy and friendship in your marriage again, and in fact, they come as a package deal.  But much work goes into rebuilding.  It's painful at times, but for those who are committed, your best years are ahead…  Coaching can help you with:

  • Identifying obstacles to rebuilding and establishing a plan to overcome them
  • Communication that builds and heals
  • How to resolve conflict
  • Understanding and meeting each other’s deepest needs
  • The importance of friendship and how to grow it
  • Developing shared values and a shared vision for your future
  • How to develop boundaries that protect and connect rather than divide
  • Managing the setbacks together
Pathway out of the Darkness